Is poor parenting the primary cause of violent or aggressive behavior of children

How not to raise a child.. 

The other day I was watching Alice in Wonderland with my 2.5 year daughter..She got super excited to see that how Alice drank something and became tiny in that Wonderland​.With the same thoughts I slept and had a dream that instead of Alice I became the tiny girl and had to face all the challenges because of my tiny size... 

Our children they are so tiny for this big world.. Why don't we think from their vision. 

Being blessed with a child is a privilege. A privilege given to us by the almighty.. And we have to nurture that ...From a child's point of view 

How not to raise them. 

Always remember two things 

1. Don't raise your voice 

2. Don't raise your expectations 

Just be yourself 

When I say don't raise your voice is because children have never been very good at listening to their elders(No Matter what your pitch is) but they have never failed to imitate them. 

Children are great mimic, not only that they love exaggerating. Almost all the kids have tried their mother’s lipstick not only for their makeup, but their dolls and their dad's. 

And now the second NO 

Don't raise your expectations.. 

They are just joyful kids.. You don't have to make a childhood resume for them Don't compel your child to have a future you can brag about to your friends with stickers at the back of your car.Every child is unique and so are his capabilities. 

You must be thinking that if everything is a No. Then what to do..Nothing 

You can't be a good parent anyways.. Nobody has ever been.Even if you have cricket team of kids, .You may raise 10 nicely. But the 11th one will contradict your hypothesis which you were about to get patented.Children are like this only. . Unpredictable 

A successful kid can only be raised without over parenting. 

The most you can give your bundle of joy is ambience.. 

Let me ask you something 

What do you​expect when you go to a fine dining restaurant 

From the lights, flooring, cutlery, s

oft instrumental music to food.. 

A perfect fine dining experience 

And when you visit a dhaba

Loud noise, large plates, open eating place and the delicious oily spicy food. 

Here is my point. 

If you give the child the dhaba ambience you cannot expect fine dining experience.. 

Give your child the right ambience, the right space. 

Raise the child with his own intelligence 

What you have created is a body by giving your genetic material .You cannot create a life. 

One thing every parent don't want their child to be is, to be like them .If u have car..U want them to have a big one .If you are rich you want them to be even richer.And that is evolution 

If you want to produce something better than yourself, stop parenting them.. 

What they want is a good company not a boss walking around. 

Raise yourself before you raise your kids..Let free the child and let them face the challenges of life without hesitation, let them try their luck and explore the endless possibilities that will make them strong and parents proud.

Ms. Dipti

Director

Dipsha Step Ahead Teacher Training Institute 

Positive Parenting

We all start out as children learning from our parents / guardians about their way of life . Becoming a parent is something we should all take very seriously since our children learn about the world through watching our actions . A parent can affect their children in a positive or a negative way depending upon the parenting style used;the environment they choose to raise their children in and the other influences the child is allowed to be around to and learn from . Although some children no matter what type of environment they are in do the totally opposite.The goal of life for nearly everyone comes down to some positive results .This also applies to raising our children which is the most important thing we may ever do . 

What is POSITIVE PARENTING? 

Positive parenting is when you encourage good behaviour in your children by setting a clear set of rules, rewarding good behaviour,good communication and pushing healthy self-esteem within your child .This teaches them what is right from wrong without being too harsh since they do not know anything better . 

Many find it hard to remain positive with the times , though it is not about the times at all . It’s what is in front of you and what you see ? There must be some good ; focus more on that and it will take you a long way . A lot of positive parenting is not as hard as it seems . The most effective way is leading by example . A great positive mental attitude would rub off on all around you . 

When it comes to discipline you will need to look for ways that donor shed negative light on the matter at hand and the correct direction for it to occur .Everyone wants to feel like they are moving in the right direction and children doing so are likely to do their best if they know the way . With them watching carefully it is just as important to handle other matters in a similar way as they are still getting examples that they might follow. 

To sum up in order to be a happy parent we must spend more time with our children , pay more attention to their needs , give them practical knowledge, qualitative education and invest time for creating a cordial and friendly relationship with our children . A parent with positive attitude shall see many more successes and indeed a better start of life for their children. 

Smriti Madhok Rawtiya
Branch Head 
Hello Kids ‘Scholars’
Pre-School Bhopal 

Adept to Adapt:A Challenge

Personal lives change as people get older, so do jobs, careers and organizations. However, human beings, by nature, do tend to resent change and resist it strongly. The whole process can be very distressing to employees and negative emotions (or reactions) could stem out of it, this is why it is always advisable to recognize the different stages of change and anticipate its impact in order to take preventive measures. we experience restructuring, downsizing, and “up sizing” just like companies do. Our own little “organizations” grow when we have kids and get smaller when they move out. Perhaps a separation or divorce causes us to go through a restructuring.

Change blows through our lives, sometimes like a breeze, sometimes like wind and sometimes like a storm. You can bow your head to try to buck it, hoping it will blow over. You’re not certain the change in your company or your personal life is for the better. You may even experience stress and personal resistance. The point is you can rarely do anything about the change, so it will best serve you to accept it and move on, and if it’s a change in your company, perhaps even promote it. You might consider focusing on positive opportunities change can bring and look upon adapting to it as a challenge. Encourage others to pull together for a positive result. In doing so, you will have some control over it. Change will never end until you experience that final life-ending change, and even then, life will go on without us.

Of course, not all change is bad. It can be wonderfully pleasant as well. A short-term stock investment could skyrocket in value due to a buy-out announcement. Modern medicine could save the life of a loved one.

Finally, be patient with yourself and others. Adapting to change does not occur overnight let alone in an eight-hour workday. Keep a positive attitude and focus on the benefits and new opportunities change can bring. Just be sure to expect a few bumps in the road along the way. When you experience stages of resistance and uncertainty but are then able to assimilate change and finally conquer it, you will experience an enormous sense of accomplishment, and your self-esteem will be increased.

I guess we should all be envious of the chameleon. To it, change comes naturally. It needs neither training nor job aids to help it shift from brown to green and back again. We humans, on the other hand, need a little more support and guidance to make it through those uncertain times in our lives-whether it’s a change in careers, a change in our personal lives, a change in how we are to perform our jobs, a change in job positions, or a change in strategies. Whether you are responsible for changing only yourself or helping an entire organization through a major change, the good news is it will occur one day at a time.In short, we can either be victims or we can prosper. The choice is ours

Ms.Sunita Jain

Director

HelloKids

Bangalore